It’s not working out so well.
As my dog and I were finishing our walk, we got to a section at the end where you have to walk over quit a few rocks as you make your way back to the grassy area. It requires focus on each next step, making sure the rock is stable before stepping. If you look to the end trying to figure out your path, you will move too fast and not see the nuances of the individual rocks in front of you, trip and really hurt yourself. I have walked this many times, but it just occurred to me today how important the present, one step at a time, not focusing on the end is to making it across this area safely. It also occurred to me how this process applies to making our way through the infertility experience (and life in general).
The infertility journey is rocky- that is true. There are large and small rocks, some deceptively stable looking, others insurmountable boulders. We often find ourselves unequipped to handle the varied terrain that is infertility’s path. Often we focus on just getting through, however we can, so that our journey finds us on the other side. With so much emphasis on the end goal, it is only natural that we want to move through as fast as possible, to find resolution to our challenge. Yet, what is possible if we break down our experience into smaller steps, focusing on our present needs? What if we consider each step, how it supports us, nourishes us, balances us? Maybe a difficult path becomes a little more passable. Maybe, one step at a time, we traverse the path most likely to bring us to our end goal safely and whole.
How are you living the present as you step through your journey?