I’ve been there. I know that infertility is a very disorienting experience. It’s kind of like being on one of those spinning wheels that used to grace playgrounds years ago (am I dating myself)? You spin around and around, holding on for dear life and when you get off, you’re still spinning. You need to take a moment to refocus, to rebalance, before moving on to the next activity. With infertility, we need to take moments, many moments actually, to refocus and find our balance. Let’s face it, that spinning wheel ride can last for years, and there is no guaranteed outcome. If we wait until we reach that end goal, or until we can go no further, we will get there depleted, disconnected and drained.
I know that much of the focus of the infertility journey is on the end goal (having a baby). And it’s important to consider how to reach that end goal. But, I believe that just as important as planning what path to take to reach our goal is how to take care of ourselves WHILE we are on the journey. What might be possible if we take moments to nourish our wellbeing and find ways to heal along the way? How might we handle the challenges our journey brings? If we can give ourselves the gift of taking time to focus on our wellness throughout our dance with infertility, we are LIVING OUR EXPERIENCE, not just waiting for the journey to end.